I realized some time ago that when I feel envy, the heart of it is usually admiration combined with a fear that I am falling short and will never be able to reach whatever characteristic or ability or achievement or trait I’m admiring. That was helpful because now I realize envy is pointing me towards something I value, and I can either take action to make it part of my life, shelve it for later, or accept that it’s not for me.. And then I am free to enjoy, admire, appreciate.