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How do single parents without a flexible job do it?
This week is chock-full of (mostly) mandatory back-to-school stuff.
I either have to be present for it, or the drop-off and pick-up times are so close as to make it kind of pointless to do anything but wait nearby. Sometimes I can get a little work done then… sometimes not. Yesterday I had a 45-minute period of waiting but there was zero cell signal so I couldn’t use my phone’s hot spot.
Every time I’m handling one of these things I think about the many single parents I know who don’t have the same kind of work flexibility. It’s still a challenge for me, because the work still needs to be done, but at least I have flex on when that happens. I don’t have to schedule PTO to go get my kids updated on their vaccines. But some parents – many parents – do.

Fear is the primary force upholding structures of domination. It promotes the desire for separation, the desire not to be known. When we are taught that safety lies always with sameness, then difference, of any kind, will appear as a threat. When we choose to love we choose to move against fear — against alienation and separation. The choice to love is a choice to connection — to find ourselves in the other.

Currently reading: All About Love by bell hooks 📚

yes, exactly, what he said:

so I want to turn the new me into the old me once removed and knock the old me out of joint to slide ahead into the new me so that the old me will be the new me twice removed and the new me the old me to the new me.

@moondeer on versions of self

What we don’t know anniemueller.com

Wrote the first half of this months ago. Unburied the draft and wrote the latter half yesterday.

Just dropped my youngest off for middle school orientation.
Youngest. Middle school.
My oldest is a senior this year.

The days are long but the years are short.

Love this meditation by @circustiger

Every day we are gifted is an opportunity to lift others; and in lifting them, we rise ourselves. Take a moment to consider how fortunate you are just to breathe, to feel, to live. If we treat tomorrow like it’s not guaranteed, the beauty that surrounds us instantly becomes prevalent.

I don’t know much about Miéville other than his fictional work and haven’t read his piece on the Communist Manifesto. Intrigued to listen to this live reading. More info here.

Thanks for registering to attend today’s event, Digressions: China Miéville on the Communist Manifesto The event will begin today at 1 PM ET at this link: www.youtub e.com/watch?v=CN9JJmO2mYY

Chaos is the only sure thing in this world. The master that rules us all.

Currently reading: Why Fish Don’t Exist by Lulu Miller 📚

I was going over my Pocket export file before importing to MB to cull dead links, etc. I used Pocket copiously since it was released in 2015 until 2021 (concurrently w Pinboard, no idea why I used two, don’t ask, I don’t have an answer, I’m sure it made sense to me at the time).
When I started using Pocket I imported links from some other service I was using prior, so I have bookmarks in Pocket going back to 2008. A long list of bookmarks, covering the last 15 years of my life.
Going over that list was a real weird “life flashing before eyes” kind of experience.
Certain evergreen topics that ebb and flow but never go away, currents that have continuity. Other topics that dominated and then disappeared:

• big rush on the development of organized religion, biblical history, the roots of evangelicalism, etc. from 2010-2011 when I was stepping out of the church + religion I grew up in
• an absolute hoard on homeschooling from 2012-2016, when I was doing my best to homeschool 1, then 2, then 3, then 4 children. I can't believe how much I thought I could do that and also, like, sleep!
• an absolutely frantic stockpile of saves on HR in 2016-2017 when I had my first full-time job at a start-up and they asked me to "handle HR" as well as doing the role I was actually hired to do (content director)

I also noticed trends in evergreen topics, e.g.:

• personal growth: my bookmarks went from articles focused on 'how to be a good wife/mom/person' and 'becoming confident' and 'how to be an introverted person surrounded by extroverted people without going apeshit' to things like 'being honest with yourself' and 'why do women people-please' and 'how to set boundaries' and 'rejecting toxic positivity' and 'are you codependent?' (Shortly thereafter, a topical spike in articles about divorce after 40, women and divorce, becoming a single mom, starting over in your 40s, etc.)
• productivity: bookmarks started with a heavy focus on 'how to do an insane amount of things every day all day without failing' and 'HERE is the perfect system for productivity' and gradually became about 'why solitude matters' and 'how to rest without guilt' and 'stop excessive goal-setting.'

An interesting (to me) little timeline of personal history.

Moving all bookmarking to MB yesterday: I realized the MB bookmarklet won’t work on Arc browser (which I am loving). Found this reddit post: Get Bookmarklets to work : r/ArcBrowser and used the converter to turn bookmarklet into extension and add to Arc. Bookmarking, baby!

first of all I don’t know anything about coding second of all I’m playing around with the bookmarks shortcode/page (thanks @sod it’s great) third of all is there a way to pull the date that a bookmark was saved and add it before the content/url?

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